“What you give, you get. What you keep, you lose” ~Coach June Jones
You would think we all just want a heck-of-a-lot of it, right? But, it’s definitely not that simple. There are a lot of feelings that even just the word brings up for us.
To some it’s dirty. To some it’s something illusive. Some use it to hurt others and still some use it to do tremendous good in the world. Money, sex and food have one thing in common: We all want it and we all pretend that we don’t want it. Admitting our desire seems greedy or taboo.
Why all this shame around money-talk? Money is something that’s not spoken about freely, but maybe it should be. Maybe if we opened up the discussion about money we could start to see money in a different light. I want to talk about money, and this is my blog, so I’m going to talk about it.
Money is just another form of energy. What we choose to do with it, our intention behind money is what makes it good or bad. Financial traders can easily make a fortune and pocket their wealth, or they can follow the example of Paul Tudor Jones, one of the top ten financial traders in history who is also one of the most influential philanthropists in the world. Jones provides over $1.45 billion dollars in grants and initiatives to the poor through his Robin Hood Foundation. Intention is way more powerful than money itself.
Money used to scare me. The fear I felt around money was one that a lot of people feel: it had to do with not having enough. The way I dealt with this feeling of scarcity was saving obsessively. I made a big deal about spending any little bit of money, and while this may not seem as bad as throwing money away, I can tell you it is just as debilitating.
My sister can attest to this. A few years ago we went on a trip to Cabo to celebrate her 40th and my 25th birthdays. While we planned and saved for it, once we were there I realized that I underestimated how much I would spend each day. That, coupled with not earning an income for 10 days and rent being due upon my return caused me to Freak Out! Mind you, I have a savings account. I could easily have transferred money over and I would have been fine, but I didn’t want to hear it. I felt overwhelmed and went a little coo-coo. (sorry sis!)
Hind-sight is 20-20. I returned home, paid my rent and realized that my fear about money put a big ugly splotch on my vacation! Not cool at all! I decided then and there to face my hang-up and here is what I’ve realized:
Money can be such a powerful tool, but that’s all it is, a tool. Your intention is what gives money power. What if money meant fullfilling your dreams? What if money meant fullfilling someone else’s dreams? Money has the potential to do a lot of good in the world, but it is up to you to use money in the right way and that begins with how you think about money.
Thinking of money as evil, or greedy does two things. One: you repel money away from yourself, so you will always feel that you don’t have enough. Two: whatever money you do receive will feel so meager that you will clench it with an iron fist and never feel like you can use it on anything other than yourself, even if you want to.
I didn’t like the way that felt so I changed my perspective. I decided that I don’t need to hold onto money with a death grip. I decided to relax so that it could flow freely into and out of my life. And out is not always a bad thing…
Just recently my sisters and I surprised my mom on her 65th birthday with a 10-day trip to Paris and Rome for her and my father. It has been her dream since she was a little girl to go to France, but I knew she would never make it happen for herself, so I decided to make it happen for her. I let the money go freely because I was funding a lifelong dream and it felt amazing!
I can also say that I seem to be attracting more money to myself than ever before. I broke down those blocks I had about money and now it is flowing towards me effortlessly. Go figure!
So what are your hang-ups about money?
Do you squander it like I used to? Are you a shop-a-holic? Do you avoid looking at your finances because you feel your bills are too big and scary?
We all have our issues. The only way to change them is to take a hard, honest look at them. They are ugly. They are scary. That’s why we avoid them for so long. Change that today! Face them! Savvy girls don’t hide from their hang-ups. Savvy girls face them with a warrior stance and kick those money-fears in the face!
Let me know what your hang-up is and tell me your plan to conquer it in the comments below.