“It is better to live your own destiny imperfectly than to live an imitation of someone else’s life with perfection.” ~Bhagavad Gita

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I had grand plans for this week’s post. I have a fantastic crumb cake recipe that I was excited to share. This cake has been a part of  holiday gatherings for the past few years and it is always a hit. I was planning a great photo shoot. I was actually going to take the time to photograph it properly. I wanted this cake to look scrumptious!

Well you must know that when we make plans God laughs. I didn’t have the right size pan so I crammed the batter into an 8×8 which made it more cake and less crumb. I also found out that if you chill the crumb mixture before sprinkling it on the batter it creates a lovely topping that crumb cake dreams are made of. Problem is, I learned this after topping my cake with unchilled crumbs which resulted in the butter melting into the cake leaving behind a layer of sugary almond bits and oats, not a crumb to be found :(

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I was disappointed for all of 10 minutes because that’s how long it took for the cake to cool before I could taste it. It was as spectacular as ever. The cake was rich and tender and perfectly chocolatey. The “crumb” was nutty and buttery and still contributed some texture.

The only problem I had was that this cake was ug-lay.

I wanted this tasty crumb cake recipe to have a beautiful photo to show you all how good it is. :(

I know it is a gigantic leap from cake to life lesson, but I was watching Oprah when all of this went down so bear with me: I started this blog to capture my journey of learning about life through living it. I’m inviting you all along. That doesn’t mean showing you only the picture-perfect end-product and pretending the missteps didn’t happen. There is enough Photoshopping in this world. Every photo has a hundred filter options these days and if I’m not careful I can get caught up in the faux perfectionism of it all.

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So ugly cake lesson of the day:

Don’t hide your imperfections. Embrace them. Share them because to be imperfect is to be human.

God has a plan for every one of us and sometimes that plan doesn’t look like what we thought it would. Sometimes it may even look like a failure.

Failing doesn’t mean you are a failure.

Failing means you are one step closer to success.

The only real failure is in not trying.

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You can imagine all of the ways something will work out. You can make grand plans, but until you take action you will never find out for certain. If I hadn’t tried to make a decadent crumb cake worthy of pintrest and instagram pages galore, I would never have learned what to do to make it perfect next time.

And I wouldn’t have gotten to eat cake 😀


Chocolate Eggnog Crumb Cake

1/2 cup nondairy butter (I use Earth Balance Organic Buttery Spread)

1/2 cup light brown sugar

1/2 cup coconut sugar

1 tsp vanilla

3 tbsp coffee

2 tbsp water

2 tbsp ground flax

1 cup oat flour

1/2 cup cocoa powder

1/4 tsp salt

1 tsp baking soda

1 cup nondairy eggnog (I use So Delicious Coconut Nog)

Crumb Topping

1/2 cup oat flour

1/2 cup coconut sugar

4 tbsp crushed almonds

3 tbsp nondairy butter

1/2 tsp cinnamon

Chocolate Eggnog Drizzle

1/4 cup nondairy eggnog

1/3 cup chocolate chips

Pre-heat oven to 350 degrees. Grease a 9×13 in. baking dish with nondairy butter. In a medium bowl cream nondairy butter with light brown and coconut sugars. In small bowl, mix ground flax seeds with coffee, vanilla and water until an egg-like consistency. Sift together oat flour, cocoa powder, salt and baking soda. Add the flax mixture to the creamed mixture. Alternate adding nondairy egg nog and dry ingredients to creamed mixture. Pour batter into greased baking dish.

For the almond struesel topping, combine oat flour, coconut sugar, cinnamon, almonds, and nondairy butter until just combined. Don’t overmix. Pop crumb in the freezer for 15 minutes. Sprinkle evenly over the cake batter. Bake for 30-35 minutes. Remove cake from the oven and let cool.

For the Chocolate egg nog drizzle, in a small bowl microwave eggnog and chocolate chips for 15 seconds at a time and stir until melted. Pour drizzle evenly over the cake. chocolate eggnog crumb cake 6

You don’t have to be perfect. I still love you.


Have you ever had a failure that turned out for the best?

Ever have an epic baking fail!?

Tell me in the comments below so I feel better about my own baking fails 😉


So Much Love,





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1 Comment on Let Them Eat Ugly Cake + Recipe (It May Be Ugly, But It’s Delicious!)

  1. What a great blog!!! I make these oatmeal cranberry chocolate chip cookies that in the picture look perfect like a cookie should. Mine…like little dense blobs, but delicious every time. I herd the more you fail the more successful you become, aslong as you learn from your mistakes ;0).

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